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Monday, April 21, 2008

Interracial Relationships - Why White Guys Love Black Women


Ever wondered why some white guys, love black women so much?

It seems that being a white male and proclaiming your attraction to black women (not only sexually, but also romantically) may lead to a lot of controversial and dangerous things. Let’s leave the debate of why more black women may be opening themselves up to white guys. The main focus of this debate is why some white guys are opening themselves to black women?

Most white males don’t feel like they are running short of white women to marry. White males just marry at high rates. So question is: Why black women? The thing is it will not be fair to bundle up black women as one since everyone is their own person and as most have figured out ALL women are different and complex… be it in appearance or personality or values.
However, one thing that some white males say is: “We love a black woman’s confidence, her tenacity and her undeniable achievements in the face of great adversity…” Since this info was coming from men, there was definitely the mention of the lips, the curves, and that wonderful skin as well.

So what about stereotypes like “black women are either sexually conservative or total sluts?” but in truth couldn’t that be said about all races in general. Many people give so much lip service to interracial dating. Stereotypes are spread because of ignorance and hatred of other races for various reasons that have no real ground, and by people who are close minded to dating and loving others. What happened to the highly educated black woman? How about the caring, decent and involved black woman?
Probably most white guys and others are confused with the stereotypical trash people spread around and if you are one that falls for such lame lines, then you haven’t dated a black woman.

Let me tell you all something, thus far dating a black woman has been the high light of my dating life and my life in general. She has been the best woman I have ever dated. She is loving, sweet, caring, loyal, nurturing, compassionate, virtuous, Godly and more then I could have ever dreamed.
Speaking as a white man dating and planning to marry a black woman. People will perceive our relationship from many angles but what matters is the love she and I share. I have wanted this woman for 4 years and now that I have her, I’m not letting anyone’s warped, biased view change my mind. She truly is the love of my life. So to all you beautiful dark skinned women who say “never” to a “white boy” well guess what, you could be missing out on some of the best blessings God can give you and same goes to you “white boys” who don’t jump at the chance to find true love no matter what color of skin it’s in.
Bottom line to You Beautiful Black Women and women of color, you don’t have to sacrifice who you are for a white guy. They will love you anyway. Just be you and open yourself up… and if you like white guys, go for it and don’t be afraid to talk to a white guy, start up a conversation. Who knows where it will lead you?

23 comments:

Jennabee said...

Wow...I'm surprised to hear this..I always thought white men were turned off by black women. Like we were lower than them. I appreciate your perspective on relationships and everything. I could use your advice on my blog concerning Doc...Read it at my blog out

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BWtamedKen said...

Thank you for your responce and I'll do my best to help.

Sandra77 said...

Ken, I'm enjoying the straightforward honesty of your blog. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

congrads on your new blog. really love it! It's so positive and uplifting. Is it ok to link to you?

BWtamedKen said...

I'm glad you enjoy my blog if there is anything you would like me to add or exspand on to make the blog better please let me know and please feel free to link the blog.

Felicity said...

It is so nice to read and positive uplifting blog. My eyes were hurting me, with all the rubbish I was watching. This is so nice Ahhh peace!!!

Anonymous said...

Hi! I like your blog. What you had to say was very interesting.And I must say your girlfriend is beautiful.
M

Anonymous said...

Hey Wassup Ken , like your site and your honesty .Wanna know who is more negative towards your relationship personally ,ww or bm ,or wm bw or asian women[since they like white guys generally]?
I'm black and male and thinks it's great bw are expanding their options in terms of love and not because I'm involved or wanna be involved with a ww ,just that life is short and you better find some good love no matter the color or age.

BWtamedKen said...

Anonymous said...
"Hey Wassup Ken , like your site and your honesty .Wanna know who is more negative towards your relationship personally ,ww or bm ,or wm bw or asian women[since they like white guys generally]?"

To tell you the truth I don't pay attention to who don't like my relationship. I barely notice those that do. the important thing is what My Queen and I think about our relationship. to listen to an out side influence on matters of your heart if they don't know you very well is foolish. my family has accepted My Queen whole heartedly. I have not talked to all of my family just the ones who's oppinions I respect.

I'm Glad every one likes my blog. this was my first one and it looks like it is well liked.

BWtamedKen said...

Anonymous said...
"Hi! I like your blog. What you had to say was very interesting.And I must say your girlfriend is beautiful."

Yes she is both inside and out. she is also the first woman I can truly say I have been in love with for years. Thanks for your comment.

Delishmish said...

Great blog...

wonderful heartfelt posts..
I wish you and yours only peace and great happiness....it is really nice to hear a guys view.

There really are a lot of us out here...

btw..Jennabee..I am sure that is your heartfelt opinion, and I respect that..but it is really strange to hear you think that white men are turned off by bw??? Jennabee..men are men first and foremost...you don't have to be a mindreader to know that men are interested in women ..period...all women...and that includes black women obviously...do not be fooled into thinking otherwise.

Anonymous said...

please put more vids on Youtube that show what liers black men who devalue black women (like Srgnt Willie Pete).
and
How do the lies black men spread abt black women affect wm's romantic involvement with bw and the way the see us?

BWtamedKen said...

Anonymous said...
please put more vids on Youtube that show what liers black men who devalue black women (like Srgnt Willie Pete).
and
How do the lies black men spread abt black women affect wm's romantic involvement with bw and the way the see us?

Hello, I don't put vids on here because I'm running a very old system and it could crash my computer, sorry. as for the lies bm say about bw. I have not hears any thing from bm about bw. if bm have something to say about bw, I have never heard it.
anyway I don't really take gender views on another gender to heart.
i know black women can be moody but hey all women can be moody for that matter so can men. I know i get moody and grumpy. but other then that I find Black women sexy and interesting. I'm blessed to have the black woman I adore.
I know men of all colors will like black women if black women would let them get to truly know them and i'm not talking about sleeping with them but get to know them as friends then if the black woman wants to let them start a relationship with them. but it is up to the black woman if they let some one in to thier lives.

energize said...

Nice and encouraging blog!

"White males just marry at high rates"
I have noticed this now that i am open to meeting different types of men. And they don't seem to have a problem wearing their wedding rings. Which helps prevent a lot of respectable women from wasting their time.

I also noticed this when i visit predominately white churches the singles groups are almost non-existent or just a few crumbs of people.

do pheromones work said...

I also wonder why white guys love black women. Hmmm.. for me maybe they just like it. Anyway, I enjoyed reading your post. It makes a lot of sense. Thanks for sharing.

-nickolei-

The Relationship Company said...

Just wanted to say.. great post.. i really liked the reasons.

Anonymous said...

I love hearing all this. I am a black women in a relationship with a French guy, we love each other so much. After two bad marriage with black men, why not. We plan to marry. This man treat me like a queen, alway have something kind to say, so any one reading this don't be afraid to take a change, after all people are just people.
He is the best thing that has ever happen to me. Also he had all the right parts in order (smile)

Anonymous said...

Hey ken, I've got a question. I'm chinese/asian and just a regular plain jane. Started seeing this french canadian. He's schooling here in a local university for a short while and would be here for about..a year or so? He's pretty interested in me and I can't help to feel that he's trying to get into my pants (I wouldnt let it of course) It's just the whole idea of whites dating philippinos/thai that's getting to me. I'm not a cheap, indecent girl. Neither am I a slut/whore. So I don't know..what's your perspective on this? I'm not sure if I should still see him.

BWtamedKen said...

Anonymous said...
“Hey ken, I've got a question. I'm chinese/asian and just a regular plain jane. Started seeing this french canadian. He's schooling here in a local university for a short while and would be here for about..a year or so? He's pretty interested in me and I can't help to feel that he's trying to get into my pants (I wouldnt let it of course) It's just the whole idea of whites dating philippinos/thai that's getting to me. I'm not a cheap, indecent girl. Neither am I a slut/whore. So I don't know..what's your perspective on this? I'm not sure if I should still see him.”

Dear Anonymous,

My apologies for the delayed response to your post, no woman is just a “plane Jane”. Every woman and even men are unique in their own ways. Without knowing how long you and your French Canadian friend have been interacting and what gives you the indication that he is only interested in getting in your pants, I cannot give you a complete response.

From your description I can give a few insights. If your French Canadian friend has already shown that his only interest in you is getting into your pants by deed or action, then it would be best to avoid a relationship with him, however, if you think he has more noble intentions toward you such as a long term commitment/ relationship that will eventually lead to marriage (if that is what you want) then continue the possible relationship but please use caution. I have seen men use women so often it truly breaks my heart. The men will show the woman the best of everything then after getting what they want (i.e. sex) they will then run or treat the woman horribly.

As for the thought of Caucasian and Asian relationships, I don’t see a problem with it at all. There will always be someone who may look at you with a white man and think of any number of stereotypes. What really matters is the love you share with your counterpart. Stereotypes and judgments will most likely always be around, this is a sad fact. They may not always be shown but they will be around. If you personally do not think you can be seen in a romantic relationship with someone of a different nationality that is your preference. Recently my wife and I went to a gathering and I overheard my wife talking to a lady. The lady said that she could not stand to be with some one who does not have the complexion of dark chocolate. My wife said, “that’s nice but I love my white chocolate.” I could not help but be proud of her and our relationship.

Troubles come from many places but it our attitudes and actions that ether allows us to overcome the troubles or get dragged down by them. My Queen and I would not have each other if we did not over come the troubles that came our way.

I hope this helps.
Sincerely,
Ken

black chat said...

I'm really impressed how you stated your happy life with your girl right now. I do agree with you that no matter what happen the most important thing is the love you shared for each other.

I'm really glad that there are still people like you who really desire to marry a black woman not like some who keeps on discriminating them.

Anonymous said...

I am really impressed with your post. I dated my first white male, we had a 3 year relationship. It wasn't that I was looking for a white male. It just happened. We met thru work and I fell hard. He treated me so different than I had been treated before. I felt special. He didn't put any pressure on me to meet his demands or to be a certain way. He allowed me to be me. He allowed me to open up, he made it easy for me to open up. Every moment was like we were the only ones existed. We didn't even realize the difference in race until we went to lunch one day and met up with a couple who were talking to us. They told us that we reminded them of their neighbor who were an "interracial couple" as well. When we heard that we fell out laughing. I am happy that I experienced that, love comes in many shapes and sizes and colors. I am more open to dating more of the other race instead of being tied to one box. But I always wondered what it was about black women that white men loved.Your post helped me with this and I thank you for the great informative read.

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Anonymous said...

I love your honesty, this is so beautiful... I'm glad there are people who can and will date outside their own race. Love is love :)